What Is the Cycle of Abuse?
Most people leave an abusive relationship seven times before they leave for good. That number sounds impossible until you understand what they keep going back to. It’s not...
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Most people leave an abusive relationship seven times before they leave for good. That number sounds impossible until you understand what they keep going back to. It’s not...
Your intelligence didn’t keep you safe. Your emotions made the decision before your logic had a chance to. That’s not a character flaw. That’s your limbic system doing...
It didn’t look like a cult. That was the entire design. NXIVM presented itself as a self-improvement organization based in Albany, New York. It offered personal development courses...
Every decision you’re proud of probably came from here. The prefrontal cortex is the region at the very front of your brain, sitting just behind your forehead. It’s...
You remember exactly what was said. The other person tells you it never happened. You remember the tone, the words, the moment. They say you imagined it, that...
Two things are true at the same time and your brain cannot hold both of them. So it quietly destroys one. Almost always, it’s the inconvenient one. What...
You find out someone you care about has been manipulated. You gather the evidence. You sit them down. You show them everything. They look at it, nod slowly,...
Your brain does not always think to find the truth. Sometimes it thinks to protect what you’ve already decided is true. The problem is that most of the...
There’s a version of manipulation that screams at you. Threats, ultimatums, obvious lies. That version is easy to spot and easy to leave. The version that ruins people’s...
You can probably name three cognitive biases right now. Confirmation bias. Dunning-Kruger effect. Survivorship bias. You’ve read about them, you understand them, and you probably catch them in...